You need a partner. I'm only speaking from my own perspective but I used to think I was born to be a loner but having a partner awakens something in you, love basically. It's wonderful and it gives you a will to go on.
And I know it's a slog to meet someone, trust me I know. But you just have to do it. You have to make an effort and weed through dozens of weird dates before you meet someone.
For me it came completely unexpected. I had resigned myself to enjoying life, was at a computer festival and suddenly there she was.
I know several people who turned their life around at 40, in fact I used to say that it's a cut off point. If you haven't turned yourself around by then, you might just end up dead. I'm sorry to be so frank, but that was how I thought before I read your post so it has nothing to do with you.
But in my perspective it has been mostly career criminals and addicts. So that's where I'm coming from.
It has worked though, I had just taken a break from that at the moment.
Out of personal experience here in Sweden I'd say out of 5 women I met on dating sites, 1 seemed like a keeper. That is after chatting for a while, the number is probably 5 times that for how many I've had contact with through dating sites.
So I'm not very active, because I just think it's so soul crushing.
And I know it's a slog to meet someone, trust me I know. But you just have to do it. You have to make an effort and weed through dozens of weird dates before you meet someone.
For me it came completely unexpected. I had resigned myself to enjoying life, was at a computer festival and suddenly there she was.
I know several people who turned their life around at 40, in fact I used to say that it's a cut off point. If you haven't turned yourself around by then, you might just end up dead. I'm sorry to be so frank, but that was how I thought before I read your post so it has nothing to do with you.
But in my perspective it has been mostly career criminals and addicts. So that's where I'm coming from.